Ruth Chesney

It’s almost Valentine’s Day! This is the time of year when in every supermarket and shopping centre, and even online, we are bombarded with red and pink hearts, Cupids and flowers. The promoted message is that if people really love each other, they will purchase this gigantic bouquet of roses, that heart-shaped box of chocolates, and the cuddly teddy bear, then present all of the above at an extravagant romantic dinner for two. While the shops are only concerned with good sales figures, their basic message that love and giving are linked is actually true. When someone loves you, they want to make you happy. They will sacrifice for you. It doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll wipe their bank account clean to buy a gourmet meal and a dozen roses. It may mean simply setting aside some time to spend together, helping with the washing up, cooking a favourite meal. You know that someone loves you when they give. Who loves you the most? Your husband or wife? Your mum or dad? Grandparent? A specia